By Rebecca Sperber, published in, August 2014

Is it possible for wonderful experiences like marriage and romantic intimacy to go horribly wrong by having too much closeness? Can being loved and loving someone begin to feel like a noose or isolation chamber? The answer to both questions is YES. There is an insidious process involved. In the beginning the typical couple is in bliss and in a bubble of romantic love. They finish each other’s sentences, like all the same things and appear to others to be the perfect couple.

However, too much of these “good parts” become suspect when other people in the couple’s life begin to feel disregarded and unimportant, and when the blissful lovers themselves (one or both partners) begin to feel the negative repercussions of isolation, and the restrictive aspect of how they function as a couple.